A teeny tiny little aniversary post

Hi Folks,

Today is Steve’s and my 13th wedding anniversary. I read something the other day about “the ideal relationship” and if we were going by what was listed in the post we are doomed. The thing about “ideal relationships” is that they aren’t real. They are idealistic wants and desires and don’t resemble real love at all. Real love isn’t pretty. It’s saggy and overweight and often grouchy and has hairs sprouting out where hairs shouldn’t be seen in polite company. Real love is that toilet seat left up/down once too often and “paper, rock, scissors for who is going to take out the bin. Real love is the place where we all settle for what is in front of us, rather than what is inside our heads.

Who wears the pants in our relationship?

Who wears the pants in our relationship?

We BOTH do thanks to Jess :)

We BOTH do thanks to Jess πŸ™‚

Real love is also spotting your wife’s 4 litres of brewed tea and sugar left to cool outside and promptly forgotten about and thinking “I bet the possums would pee in that…” and bringing it in anyway, despite how funny watching your wife drink possum pee Kombucha would be. THAT…is true/real love :).

Like Big Kev would have said "We're not fancy... but we're cheap!" ;)

Like Big Kev would have said “We’re not fancy… but we’re cheap!” πŸ˜‰

Happy anniversary my wonderful man and here’s to many more 13 year instalments πŸ™‚

This is us folks, take us or leave us but there is no denying we are "real" :)

This is us folks, take us or leave us but there is no denying we are “real” πŸ™‚

38 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. christiglover
    Oct 07, 2013 @ 14:52:55

    Happy Anniversary you two love birds! I love your differences and how you see them and accept them — because you have to because you are better together forever. Hugs and kisses to you both. πŸ™‚ p.s. the B.O. could never pick me up like that! lol


    • narf77
      Oct 08, 2013 @ 04:03:04

      To be honest, Steve can’t pick me up like that at the moment either because he has a bung shoulder from swinging the block splitter all winter long ;). I have a bung knee and together we are hobbling around Serendipity Farm waiting for the weather to warm our aching bones ;). Hugs and kisses right back atcha and I figure that moment where you realise that the hairy scruffy opinionated antisocial man that appears to have taken up residence on your best sofa and who appears to be expecting you to cook for him and sweep up after him is actually going to stick around for the long haul and you STILL love the bones off him is the place where “love” is real :).


  2. Allotment adventures with Jean
    Oct 07, 2013 @ 16:57:32

    Happy Anniversary to you both.
    Lots more happy years together.


  3. quarteracrelifestyle
    Oct 07, 2013 @ 17:59:19

    Happy anniversary to you both !! A lovely post πŸ™‚


  4. teawithhazel
    Oct 07, 2013 @ 18:24:03

    happy thirteenth wedding anniversary fran and steve..long may you wave..together!


    • narf77
      Oct 08, 2013 @ 03:58:55

      So to we Jane! πŸ™‚ Cheers for the congratulations, we are surprised it’s 13 and amazed we haven’t killed each other yet but give us time… πŸ˜‰


  5. foodnstuff
    Oct 07, 2013 @ 18:54:29

    Congratulations! Love the his ‘n’ hers pants!


  6. rabidlittlehippy
    Oct 07, 2013 @ 19:05:05

    True love is everything never seen on tv and precious little of what is. πŸ˜€

    Happy Anniversary to you both. I wish you many more true love years together. πŸ™‚

    And I’ll have to get onto that second pair of trousers for you soon I can see. Then you can both wear the pants at the same time. πŸ˜‰


    • narf77
      Oct 08, 2013 @ 03:58:09

      My delicious knitted pants are in the wash :(. It has been raining solid for 2 months here! I was whinging about how little rain we had through winter but didn’t realise that our winter is now from August through to December! Foolish me…sigh…we had to buy more pairs of undies in town yesterday because we are out. It’s still drizzling outside and methinks it is time to tackle the mountain of washing before Steve and I are reduced to wearing our “special going out” clothes when we race out between showers to cut a bit of wood…Frank, next door, might have to have some kind of mental intervention after peering through his binoculars (“WE KNOW YOU DO FRANK!” πŸ˜‰ ) and seeing me holding the logs while Steve chainsaws them in my undies and bra…in STEVE’S undies! πŸ˜‰


  7. Jo
    Oct 07, 2013 @ 19:47:19

    Yes, you hit the nail on the head there with the truth of a good relationship…
    Maybe you should write a column…


    • narf77
      Oct 08, 2013 @ 03:52:22

      I think writing a 3000 word column might be a step too far in most readers eyes ;). Maybe I could write the editorials and YOU could write the columns? We would make a good team. I do “frothing at the mouth” well and you do “hilarious life insights” to a tee…we would give the local rag a shake-up that it might NEVER recover from methinks πŸ˜‰


  8. thinkingcowgirl
    Oct 07, 2013 @ 20:34:32

    Wow thirteen well done! For sure it is the daily negotiations of life which are the strong bones of a relationship….and the flesh is the kindness and acceptance you (eventually πŸ˜‰ ) give each other which makes it solid. Happy Anniversary!


    • narf77
      Oct 08, 2013 @ 03:48:30

      Cheers ma’am! Steve has had me through thick…thicker and now thin so he has certainly had his pound of flesh from this bodacious babe, although I didn’t quite get to the voluptuous realms of Ms Dawn French…I figured if I fell down he might need to help me back up and that might be pushing a relationship too far ;). My first attempt at the marriage game lasted 15 years…can’t wait to eclipse it this time and still be loving the face that I see covered in stubble and snores first thing in the morning πŸ™‚ Hopefully I have learned something about negotiation this time around. We shall see! πŸ˜‰


  9. Kaye
    Oct 07, 2013 @ 23:14:46

    Wishing you both a wonderful day and even more fabulous years ahead. God bless and love.


  10. Littlesundog
    Oct 07, 2013 @ 23:59:34

    Happy Anniversary to both of you! FD and I will be married 13 years on 12/31/13. What makes for a real love and respectful relationship… you said it all so well. I love you, my “real” friends!


    • narf77
      Oct 08, 2013 @ 03:49:17

      Love and congratulations to the 2 of you right back atcha! Seems like all the best of us took the plunge in 2000 doesn’t it? πŸ™‚


  11. Anthropogen
    Oct 08, 2013 @ 12:15:38

    Congratulations, I hope had a great anniversary… To the next 30 years!!!


  12. cathyandchucky
    Oct 08, 2013 @ 13:34:42

    Happy anniversary Fronkiii and Steve. That saying was from Luigi (knotted hanky on head) for whatever warehouse sale he was selling from πŸ˜€ Love is grand and makes our lives the richer for it. Isn’t it funny that we found our soulmates late in life? Well worth the wait πŸ˜€


    • narf77
      Oct 08, 2013 @ 15:58:50

      Big Kev, Luigi, who can remember, it was last century! πŸ˜‰ You are completely right about the soulmates and I reckon we had to be old enough to appreciate them before we were allowed to meet them πŸ™‚


      • cathyandchucky
        Oct 09, 2013 @ 10:31:18

        We also had to go through what we did with who we did and live our lives exactly the way we did to end up at the exact spot where we first set eyes on our loved ones. That’s what I find amazing! If I had never gotten married in the first place, or had children, I would never have met Jason. They were instrumental in that meeting πŸ˜€

      • narf77
        Oct 09, 2013 @ 11:27:54

        and if you hadn’t had “me” as a sister, you wouldn’t have met him either πŸ˜‰

  13. Oxy-plast
    Oct 08, 2013 @ 16:12:39

    Beyond lovely and heart warming ❀ You two set the foundation of a great relationship πŸ™‚ ❀

    This is Kelsey! Stewart is at work right now, but I am willing to bed he feels the same!


  14. Sophie33
    Oct 08, 2013 @ 19:47:39

    Congratulations to you both! Yeahhhhh! A lovely real post!!!!! Xxx πŸ˜‰


  15. LyndaD
    Oct 08, 2013 @ 21:11:37

    Such a good example of finding the best in each other and appreciating the differences. Mine is 20 years in two weeks. Its been a struggle but since 80% of Aspie marriages fail, i guess we are bucking the odds. Those pants are just too too funny.


    • narf77
      Oct 09, 2013 @ 03:42:26

      I think its a matter of saying “stuff it…this IS good enough” sometimes don’t you think? :). I guess it is also trying to see the good in what you have rather than focussing on the toilet seats that are left up, the constant tracking in of chook poo on shoes, the snoring, the clothes strewn on the floor and the obvious “pretty vacant” sign on their faces when you are talking about something you LOVE and that they don’t give a stuff about ;). Just when you think you might add them to the compost to add to the suite of organisms they go and do something that makes you remember exactly why you love them all over again :). Aint love grand? πŸ™‚ You are right…those pants are amazing AND unisex πŸ˜‰


  16. gardeningkiwi
    Oct 09, 2013 @ 04:53:25

    Happy Anniversary Fran and Steve. I love the power of the internet, as I feel that we are really friends and and great encouragers and so despite not living next door I offer my congratulations to two lovely people and know they deserve all the happiness in the world! I hope you celebrate in the best Narf style possible.
    Cheers Sarah : o )


  17. Ally
    Oct 10, 2013 @ 19:45:04

    Belated happy anniversary wishes to you Narf7.
    October is our anniversary month too.
    I love that you both wear the pants- that’s how it should be. πŸ™‚
    Lots of love xxx


    • narf77
      Oct 11, 2013 @ 03:22:55

      Especially when it is just the 2 of you and you are both bordering on “curmudgeon” it’s always wise to share the curmudgeonly load πŸ˜‰


  18. Linne
    Oct 13, 2013 @ 23:51:03

    Very belated Congratulations and Happpy Anniversary to you both. You state the difference between sentiment and Love so well. Wish we all ‘got’ this early in life, but I agree, we need to live and grow organically, not try to skip to only the fun bits.
    Although some days . . .

    I wish you many curmudgeonly years together. πŸ˜‰


    • narf77
      Oct 14, 2013 @ 03:39:34

      Hey we have had 14 so far, why spoil a run? ;). I think the real difference between love and ideology is that “love” is real and learns to forgive that seat being up in the middle of the night and tries to look for the good things about that hairy snoring person next to you to balance it all out ;). Cheers for the good wishes Linnie πŸ™‚


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